3 Principles of Coaching

When I train managers as coaches I always warn them to respect the power of coaching questions and to recognize the possibility that what starts as an innocuous, business related conversation, may lead to the unveiling of a deeper issue. Coaching managers would be advised to develop at least a little insight into the signs of abnormal psychology. Consider for example, eating disorders.

The term eating disorder can apply to a variety of conditions but here we'll consider two of the better known: Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa.

Anorexia Nervosa:

This condition is associated with a 'wrong' perception of body weight or shape. The sufferer will often perceive themselves as overweight and be fearful of putting on weight. Usually however, they would be deemed seriously underweight. Anorexia Nervosa is a very serious condition which can prove fatal.

Bulimia Nervosa:

Unlike anorexia the bulimia sufferer is normally within a normal body range but again will tend to have a distorted perception of body or size. The condition is characterized by episodes of binge eating followed by 'remedies' such as self-induced vomiting or taking laxatives.

A number of possible explanations for these disorders have been advanced:

Sociocultural Factors:

It is perhaps no surprise that these conditions are most prevalent in developed western societies that have an abundance of food and yet attach huge value to the notion of being slim. One study (Davies & Furnham, 1986) found that a research sample included significantly more people who wanted to lose weight than actually saw themselves as overweight. This suggests cultural pressure to achieve a certain body.

Psychological Factors:

Eating disorders tend to occur in young women. This may correlate with declining self-esteem amongst this same group at this time in their lives. There are, of course, different perspectives within the psychology field:

  • Behaviourist - suggesting that slimming becomes a habit
  • Psychoanalytical - suggesting that anorexia may be an attempt to suppress sexual impulses
  • Humanistic - suggesting the conditions are connected to family relationships

Family Factors:

Eating disorders could be connected to family factors such as a history of obesity or an obsession with eating and weight.

Biological Factors:

Recent research focusing on the hypothalamus has suggested a biochemical explanation for these eating disorders. However it is difficult to differentiate between cause and effect.

Whatever the cause, signs of either of these eating disorders must be taken very seriously as the effect on the sufferer and their family can be devastating. Consider for example, the famous case of the Carter family who ended up launching an historic legal battle to compel their anorexic daughter Vicki to eat.

What then of the coaching manager who uncovers these signs when coaching around day to day issues such as workload management or time keeping? Best advice would seem to be to keep to good coaching principles. Ask questions designed to raise awareness, generate responsibility and build trust then listen carefully and attentively to the responses. This is highly unlikely to make things worse and may actually do quite a lot of good.

After that, it's a question of referring the coachee to the relevant professional. For this reason I recommend that all coaching managers familiarize themselves with their organization's welfare procedure.

© Matt Somers, 2009. Reprints welcome so long as by-line and article are published intact and all links made live.

Matt Somers - Coaching Skills Training

About The Author:

Matt Somers is the author of Coaching at Work (John Wiley & Sons, 2006) and Instant Manager: Coaching (Hodder & Stoughton, 2008). His consultancy practice is focused on helping managers become coaches and achieve the results that coaching promises.

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